There are many reasons for low self-esteem. According to research, many of them stem from early childhood experiences involving physical, or emotional abuse, or feelings of abandonment. If you suffered from this type of childhood, low self-esteem can result if you didn’t get the validation and support you needed from the adults in your life during these formative years.
If this led to ongoing feelings that you were not quite as good as other people, it’s time to shake that off. In this article, I’ll share 8 ways that mindfulness meditation can help you overcome low self-esteem and realize your full potential.
1. Change Your Opinion of Yourself
There are many things about yourself that you can change, such as losing weight, changing your wardrobe, hairstyle, or make-up, for an improvement in your appearance. All of these things can help you to better your opinion of yourself, but what really needs to change, is that deep down conviction that you’re not quite good enough. You are good enough. Never doubt that.
2. Don’t Allow Others to Bring You Down
Do you look to others for appreciation and approval, thinking that this will help you feel better about yourself? To some degree the opinion of others does help, but when others disapprove, or criticize you, you are devastated and your self-esteem plummets. You must realize that true self-esteem comes from within. With mindfulness meditation you can learn to be delighted with who you are, better enjoy your own company, and make the most of your talents.
3. See That You Are a Unique Individual
You carry within you all the gifts (and weight) of your ancestors. It is a great awakening when you understand how completely individual you are. There has never been and there will never be another person exactly like you. You were born with a certain set of genes that are original with you, even different from that of your siblings. As a child, your environment and relationships with family and friends all helped to shape you into who you are today. Through your own uniqueness, you also get to shape who you become and what happens next.
4. Know That You Can Make a Difference
With mindfulness meditation you can realize your strengths and talents and put them to good use. What a waste it would be to allow your gifts to go unused. Think about what a difference one single person can make in this world. How about Abraham Lincoln, Mother Teresa, or Martin Luther King Jr.? The contributions they made were significant. Whether large or small, you can contribute also. Mindfulness helps you to be focused, goal driven and more intentional about what you do in life, how you spend your time and why.
5. Be the Person You Want to Be
Just imagine for a minute that you are the person you want to be, and that you carry this great confidence in your abilities and talents. Imagine what you could do with your life. Can you see what a difference it would make in your career, your love life, and your relationships with others? You can do this. You can rid yourself of a lot of the self-doubt and bad feelings that you have about yourself with mindfulness meditation.
6. Give Yourself Credit for Your Successes
By meditating every day and bringing to mind what a good person you are and what’s going well in your life, your feelings of self-worth will improve, and you will realize how much you have to contribute – and how much you do contribute. This will spur you on to do more good works, which will in turn make you feel even more confident. You have many gifts to offer the world, and people can benefit from your talents and experiences. If you truly believe this, then you’re on your way to a fulfilling life.
Feel Better About Yourself
Making meditation a part of your daily routine will help you feel calmer and more sure of yourself. Science shows that even your blood pressure, and overall health will improve. Start out with 5 to 10 minutes a day, and later you can build the time up to a practice that suits your schedule and your life.
Realize Your True Value
Eventually, you will be able to reach a deep level of meditation, and concentrate on what a good person you are. In the meantime, remember the times you have helped people—your kindness, honesty, and integrity. Also, think of the contributions you have made to society, either monetarily, volunteering, or just by doing someone a personal favor. Your feelings of self-worth will improve, and you will be able to forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made in the past. We all make them. No matter what your own mistakes may be, you can learn to love yourself.
About the Author: This article was written by Mary Sovran and edited and reprinted with the permission of our friends at The Mindfulness Meditation Institute. To learn more about their work, please visit www.mindfulnessmeditationinstitute.org.
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